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My mother's father
Published on November 20, 2004 By Ravenblack In Life Journals
So I already wrote that my father's father was tea merchant.

My mother's father, who came up in the conversation over lunch with relatives today, was a blacksmith.

As I heard it, he was chinese man who left his home in his youth and went to Thailand where he worked and got married. Unfortunately for him, his first wife passed on and so he came down to Singapore and married my maternal grandmother. Together they had eight daughters and one son. My mum was number 4.

As I heard it, he was the strong and silent type. He would work at his irons all day, making knifes and other tools. He didn't say much when it came to dinner time. He had a unsmiling face. He never had much to say to the children. But he wasn't unkind to them. He would have them do chores for him and then after that, he would give them a few cents to buy candy. (Things were cheap back then).

As I heard it, one time, some secret society punks came around and tried to extort money from him. He got mad and chased them off with a chopper. My mother and her sisters, kids back then, hid in the upstairs bedrooms and peeked out the window, saw the whole thing. Then he had to go to the then English colonial court where he testified against these hooligans in his own dialect. Back in the 1950's, secret societies were like the mafia and shopkeepers had to pay them "protection money" or get haressed. I thought that was very upstanding of him.

Then one day, he was working in his workshop, hammering out a new tool by the fire, when he suddenly collapsed and died. No one knows why. My mother was about eleven or twelve.

Don't know enough about my maternal grandfather, I wish I knew him. Without him, my mother would not have existed, and neither would I.

Comments
on Nov 20, 2004
I know how you feel. I never met my maternal grandfather. He passed away before I was born. All I have of him is a picture and some old stories told by my mother and her brothers and sisters. I sometimes wish for more, too.
on Nov 20, 2004
on Nov 20, 2004
I think it's beautiful that you are curious about him. Many young people seem to not care much about knowing about their ancestors. He sounds like a very honest and hardworking man.

He reminds me of my grandfather (on my mother's side at that) who is now having one of his hips replaced for the second time because he's worn it out yet again. Always working, always busy, always honest, and very solemn . . . although age has mellowed him quite a bit.

I enjoyed this article.
on Nov 20, 2004


I am curious about what he would be like if he is still present. I imagine he would be happy with so many grandchildren. I just think he is really cool - although it is said he never says a word of thanks or praise, he gives his kids a bit of money for candy when they do chores for him. Old fashion fathers wouldn't do that - since it's an obligation to do the chores anyway.
on Nov 20, 2004
I never knew my mom's mom. I know her step-mom and am not a huge fan. It's strange like that.

one time, some secret society punks came around and tried to extort money from him. He got mad and chased them off with a chopper.


That made me smile. I love stories like this that get passed down.

-A.
on Nov 21, 2004
I really wish there was more. His past is a mystery. No one knows why he left home, who his first wife was, whether he had any children by her, grandma was his second and the marriage was arranged. How and what circumstances that was done is also a mystery. Grandma has already passed on so I can't ask her. The info is shadowy among the children because grandma was not much the talking type either. I feel it was a real missed opportunity. Coming back to Texas' comment about young people not caring much about their ancestors, I think that was true of me. I wasn't really interested until recently.