Observations, thoughts and other assorted stuff.
Thoughts after watching the movie Carrie.
Published on August 27, 2004 By Ravenblack In Misc
One of my all time favorite horror movies is Carrie, based on Stephen King's horror novel about a girl with telekinetic powers who wreck vengeance on those who have tormented her in school. The latest remake of that 1976 movie follows pretty closely to the original with a few changes that sort of mild down the chaos and the horror. The 1976 original is still the best. I think Sissy Spacek was brilliant as the weirdo girl in school that people point at and make fun of. (Check out the link below if you haven't seen the movie.)

I'm sure people are familiar with Carrie-type characters in school. Of course, they don't usually come with telekinetic powers, but they are certainly are 'weird'. Maybe it's the way they look at people, or the way they move around or the way they dress. They are always sort of shy and quiet. They are usually alone.

Back in primary school (I was nine or so), I remember there was this girl in school who was always picked on. I never figured out why. She wasn't very pretty, she was definetly very quiet and she has a strange bloated face. She was a bit slow, at least that is how I remembered her. She wasn't in my class, but used to hear the other girls talk about how strange she looks. She didn't stay till the end of the year.

In secondary school (teenage by now), there was a girl who hung out around my clique. She was plain, not very outstanding, quite smart at studying and had strange habit of eating leftovers off other people's tray. I'm ashamed to admit now, that i did partake in making fun of her at times. Not to the extend of playing nasty pranks but I did laugh at her and made a few nasty cracks.

Come to think of it now, the girl had a lack of confidence in herself, and we were not helping. Our youthful foolishness and pride was cruel.

Why are we cruel to people who are different?

Are we afraid of them? Is it because we think we are better than them? Do we totally lack empathy?

While I was watching "Carrie", I felt angry at the popular girls for picking at Carrie, who wasn't doing anything to them in the first place. They laughed at her when she had her period - she thought she was going to die. They threw the sanitary napkins in her face. They ruined her happiness at the prom. When she finally did them all in, I felt that those kids deserved it.

And then I remember ...

Who would I have been in the Carrie movie? Probably that someone who stood around and laughed at "Carrie" for being naive and silly and weird. Although if I saw the pig's blood come down on her when she's standing up on stage, I would probably be too horrified to laugh. As my teenager self, I probably decide she shouldn't have come to the prom in the first place because she's just naive to think that the popular will let her get away with happiness.

I wouldn't think that way now, but I probably would have.

I am not that cruel teenager anymore, but I was.

I don't know what happened to those "weirdos" I used to know in school. Probably all grown up and living normal lives. And if that girl I knew in secondary school looked back and I am one of those she come to hate and despise, I wouldn't blame her at all. I'm sure she would remember and that it would have hurt. If I ever meet her again, I will want to apologise for contributing to her pain.


Comments
on Aug 27, 2004
Ravenblack,

Why are we cruel to people who are different?[/B

I never picked on anyone nor was I at the brunt of anothers malice but I did see it go on....I do still see it go on....Is it part of our natural instinct? A 'survival of the fittest scenario' that is not neccesary in our society today? I do feel, though, that kids join the masses out of fear...fear of being the one who is picked on.....fear of not being like everyone else. I look back to when I was at school and wish I did more for the poor kids who were tormented so....there was a couple of kids that I actually did something about and it was highly appreciated by the poor bullied child and they grew bolder knowing they had a protecter but I neither had the time or energy to help everyone. Not all of us are confident enough to speak up and if you're getting torn to the ground every day you only get weaker....
Most bullies are actually cowards..... take away their entourage and their all piss and wind. What we need to do as a society is to make parents realize their responsibility of educating their children and taking responsibility for their actions at school........
I could go on but unfortunately I'm at the end of my tour .......will be back to finish later!

on Aug 28, 2004
Thanks for the insightful comments, Crusader. Love to hear more. I think you are right, one of the reasons is that there is the fear of not fitting it, the kid don't want to help another for fear that he or she might be lumped together with the unaccepted one.

Have fun wherever you are.
on Aug 28, 2004
Ravenblack,

Fear is a spectre behind a lot in our society....and it's a shame kids pick up the instinct so naturally.....as fear leads to hate and anger.....
If we could only talk to our kids as equals, not as adults who know everything to kids who know nothing.....my son, who is soon to turn four, is my equal, I speak to him as I do anyone....It's wrong to be condescending to children.....though I realize with absolute neccesity that it is my duty to teach him of the world, its wonders and its dangers and equip him with the mind to oneday stand on his own two feet. Though I will always be his protector.

I am enjoying bumping into you around the sites, Ravenblack, see you around soon!
on Aug 28, 2004
Raven: I thought this was a terrific post - it's strange how we quickly we condemn the hatefulness and snottiness in others, but how slow we are to recognize it in ourselves.

I know that I was quite mean to some other kids in high school - going along with the crowd, and I can also remember having other kids treat me very poorly as well. I hated high school anyways. That's not something I would ever want to do over again . . . they tell you it's the best time of your life, but if it really were, life would be pretty sad.

I think that I have mostly outgrown the tendency to fall in with the crowd and be hateful to others, but I don't think I have eliminated it entirely. I honestly believe that the strongest human desire we have is the desire to be accepted by others (even people we don't like or think we don't care about) . . . and I think that desire drives us to do horrible, irrational, stupid, or dangerous things sometimes.

btw - I have not seen Carrie . . . is it very scary? If not, I'll rent it tomorrow . . . if it is, I'll wait til my hubby's home.

As usual, fantastic post, Raven. This one really got me to thinking.
on Aug 28, 2004
Crusaders,

>>I am enjoying bumping into you around the sites, Ravenblack

Thanks, I enjoy your posts and reading your views too.


Texas,
>>they tell you it's the best time of your life, but if it really were, life would be pretty sad.

The person who said that must be immensely popular. It isn't really much fun to be a teenager unless you just happen to have that thing that makes you popular - namely sports and looks. Yeah, there were a few fun things but it certainly wasn't the BEST time of my life. I would definetly have to say I enjoyed being in my 20s more than my teen years - I hated studying.

>>btw - I have not seen Carrie . . . is it very scary? If not, I'll rent it tomorrow . . . if it is, I'll wait til my hubby's home

It's not scary, not to me, but it was just horrible. There isn't any sudden shock-out-of-your-chair stuff. I don't think Carrie was the horror, I think her tormentors are the true horrors of the movie. Some scenes are just disturbing and quite gory at the end.

>>fantastic post, Raven

Thank you.
on Aug 28, 2004
Texas Wahine Said:I honestly believe that the strongest human desire we have is the desire to be accepted by others (even people we don't like or think we don't care about) . . . and I think that desire drives us to do horrible, irrational, stupid, or dangerous things sometimes.

Unfortunately that is so true.....and it holds us from being ourselves as we are too busy being what we think other people want us to be....

I think up until age twelve or so is meant to be the best time of your life....that is, however, if you have a loving family, if you are socialy accepted at school...if...there are many ifs but I'm sure you know what I mean. So, not all of us EVER have the best time of their lives. I was pretty lucky growing up and had that perfect twelve years or so at least though I didn't realize it at the time....and because I didn't realize it I kinda messed up my teenage years in a swirl of rebellion and angst to grow up before I was ready. If I could turn back time I would stay a kid as long as I possibly could.

I'm off to see what your interests are, Ravenblack!